I don't know about you, but I, as the father of three children, I have returned to school more than once to leave something that we had left. Since last year, the three are going to school and each, of course, has a different schedule.
This means that there are many things that they have to wear differently and that sometimes there is some forgetfulness or neglect, that then parents try to repair by returning to school to take what they have left. Returning, as we do many, unless they go to a school like this that we will talk about today, which has It is strictly forbidden for the parents to leave anything that has not entered with the child.
Forbidden to return, whatever
As we read in Upsocl, the school Catholic High School for Boys from Little Rock, Arkansas, he decided to hang this sign at school so that everything they bring because their son has been left does not reach his recipient.
Whether it's lunch, whether it's homework, whether it's a book, whether it's spare clothes for the days they do physical education, whether it's a medicine, a jacket, glasses or contact lenses, pens, ... consider the child You will have to be able to solve the problem.
But ... it's a high school
So is. It's a high school, but not for being older children stop forgetting things at home. Let's say the only thing that changes is the culprit. In these ages it is the fault of the boy or girl (in this case boy, because it is a school for boys only), and when they are young, it is the fault of the parents, that we are responsible for carrying everything.
Precisely for that reason, at the time they shared the cartel, it began to be shared until it provoked more than 115,000 reactions and received more than 3,800 comments, many of outrage. The image was accompanied by a text that said that in this school, in addition to teaching arithmetic, to read and write, they teach them to solve problems.
And therein lies the doubt ... if a child leaves breakfast, does he have the possibility of getting breakfast otherwise or runs out of breakfast? If a child leaves homework, does he have the opportunity to do them during class or will he receive a punishment? If a child leaves a book, can he share it in class with another child or will he be penalized in public with a reprimand for having left it? Because the first options would be a child solving problems, but the second not.
Schools that don't let you come back
And so I arrive at the schools, which there are, that do not allow you to leave again what the children have left, and it seems to me not only of extreme arrogance, but also cruel. And I say it because I am of a clueless nature, of those who wonder where something is in their hand or where they have left something they have touched three seconds before and it does not appear anywhere.
I have come home many times after leaving my children at school and I have found the bag with the spare clothes on the table, ready to take it, without having entered class with one of my children. And I've taken her until one day they told us not to do it anymore, neither we nor any other father ... that we would not return with the things that are left.
The problem is that if they don't carry the bag with clean clothes they are punished without doing physical education. The problem is that if they do not carry their homework, it does not matter if you say that you have left them, for them it is as if you hadn't done them. The problem is that if you leave lunch, you don't have lunch. The problem is that when they tell a 6-year-old boy that the next day he has to take something to school, the same message arrives, the same does not reach you, and perhaps you realize when you are at the door, that many children carry that something and yours not, because you didn't even know you had to take it.
And so one day, and another, and another ... not followed, but more or less common. I do not know, last year, with the three children, there were still a dozen days when something stayed at home, or even in the same car: enter the children and realize that they have left something in the car. And you take it and leave it to the concierge and you are not sure that they will give it to you, or when. And if it's at home, don't bother: they won't take it.
Schools should be more ... natural places
That if I leave the food in the fridge, my wife comes to work and brings her to me. Of course, if he left it to me every day, he would probably tell me to put a notice on my phone's calendar to remind me. That if one day she leaves something, she calls me and I take it wherever ... that the cluelessness is part of human nature, that if not, there would be no saying that "He who has no head, has feet."
The schools they should be closer places. That if a child has left his homework he does not have to spend the whole morning thinking about what he has left them and what the reprimand will be for something he did. That way you will never leave them again? Well, for a certain time, no, but the one he relaxes, he will probably forget them again another day. They are punctual things, they are careless that can happen to anyone. Do not teachers return to the teacher's room if when they arrive at a class they realize that they have left their glasses? Well the same for children.
And if it happens that it is not something punctual, but that there is a child whose dismissals or forgetfulness are frequent: "How is it that your parents make two trips every day because you leave something?", Well it is worth treating the case so individual and instead of penalizing, try to offer tools so that it does not happen, or does not happen so often:
- "What if they make a list of everything they have to bring the next day and when they leave home they mark everything with an 'X'?"
- "And if you leave the child who is responsible for bringing everything ... Perhaps you are too busy to take responsibility for it and surprise us being able to have that responsibility."
- "And if I have your child write on the agenda for the next day what he needs when this is exceptional and check that he is well targeted before we leave? I could do it a season to see if little by little the forgetfulness decreases."
I don't know, it's put solutions instead of obstacles... in the first school where my children went they had a rule that parents could not transfer the entrance door to the courtyard between the street and classes, even if the children were preschool. Many children clung to the door, some stayed halfway between the door and the class, crying, others entered the class but then ran out to the outside door again ... a chaos that parents did not understand because while the teacher watched those who entered or tried to escape, was not for those who had already entered.
And I understand that school should be a place to go naturally, where children can feel a little at home. By their standards, of course, but without feeling that they are constantly being monitored and controlled to be reprimanded if they fail at something.
Forbid you to take something left over to your child? Do we talk about prisons? Really ... that in schools like this do an urgent review of your educational model, because it makes no sense that I can take something that someone has left to work and can not take my child something to school.
