Little Lucia, four years old, has become the smallest minor in Spain to get a name change. At birth she was baptized as Luken (Lucas in Basque) for being a boy, but his gender has always worried him so much, and his illusion for being a girl has been such his parents decided to support him to be Lucia.
Then we explain the story of this boy who wanted to be a girl and how parents faced him, and to reflect a little on the subject we ask you the question: What would you do
Mom, even if I have a penis, can I be a girl?
This is how yesterday the world titled the history of this family, through this phrase that Luken told his mother when he was three years old.
He had always liked everything that is socially related to the feminine: certain toys, costumes of female characters, dresses ... and what started as a game soon became something else when he began to speak Spanish (in Basque the articles are neutral) in order to define himself as feminine: "I am beautiful, I am a girl ..."
From that point, their parents decided to start looking for information about it, because one thing is to play with things that girls usually like but that can perfectly be used by boys, and another is may your son continually tell you that he is not a boy, but a girl. They contacted the association Chrysallis, specializing in transgender minors, and with other specialists, and made the decision not to contradict Luken. So, when he asked if, despite having a penis, it could be a girl, they said yes, that there were both girls with vulva and girls with penis.
According to the mother, in words to said newspaper: "The face of joy that he put on with only three years ... They are of those details that let you know that we are not wrong".
From Luken to Lucia
Last September the parents decided to ask Tolosa's court to change their name in the Civil Registry. A month later, still four years old (he turned five in December), he was granted it, and Luken became Lucia, a name that she liked very much and that was the idea of an older brother.
From that moment all his surroundings began to treat him officially as a child and now he is Lucia for all, but not everything ends here, because in his ID he still appears an “M” that says he is a boy.
And it is that the gender change is only made when you are of age and take at least two years of hormone treatment or the sex change operation has been performed, although, it must be said, this rule takes a while being studied to modify these requirements by others less restrictive. And if Lucia wanted to practice sports in a women's team, for example, with other girls, it is not clear that because she is still considered male she can do it.
What if your son told you that she is a girl with three years?
Incomprehension. That is what you would most likely receive, if your son told you that he is a girl, he would behave as such, and you would choose to change his name and let him be who he says he is.
Incomprehension, because in the same newspaper they asked the mother what many people think: "How clear did they have that Lucia was a girl? Have they not asked for the change too soon?" And is that The easiest thing is to consider that a child of three or four years is not old enough to know who he is, and even to know who wants to be.
The usual thing is to think that it is a whim, that is imitating some family pattern, perhaps the mother, a teacher, or any woman or fictional character that she admires, and that enjoys posing as a child, to the point of making the children believe Parents who really are, who wants to be.
But to give an opinion, of course, we would have to meet Lucia and see what her day to day is like, and see how sure are you that it is a girl and not a boy, how happy he is to be called that way and, on the contrary, to know how he felt (or feels) when someone still tells or remembers him, in some way, that he was a child.
And knowing this, if it is clear that she feels this way, the most logical thing is to support her and be there with her for whatever it takes. Come on, I see it so clearly that I find it hard to believe that there is a debate around this, even though I am aware that there is. Just look at the comments on that article to be clear.
And beware, this does not mean that it is not hard. We have wanted to title this entry starting with it, precisely because although you have very clear towards your son, in the face of society, in the face of “what will they say”, it is a very complicated decision that is nothing more than the principle of what is to come and what Lucia is going to have to live.
And if after more he thinks again that it should be Luken?
Surely it is the second question that people ask the most ... because if due to their age, it could be a whim and the parents attend to that demand, the consequence may be this, that Lucia will change her mind and want to be again Luken
Well, if this happened, the parents would do what was necessary to reverse the situation. But it doesn't have to happen, and if it happened they wouldn't have anything to face. They have listened to their daughter at all times and have allowed her to define herself based on what makes her feel more comfortable, than it doesn't have to always be the same.
There are transgender people who are because they do not feel comfortable with the body they have and the identity they are assigned, who decide to change to have the other gender and who end up realizing that, although they are more comfortable there, neither do they feel fully represented. And we live in a society with roles sometimes so defined, that what comes out of it is not always well accepted and may not be shared by some people.
In other words, it may be that a day comes when Lucia feels she is not comfortable being Lucia, but she still does because, given the possibility of being Luken again, she prefers it. Or not, it is possible that that day does not arrive and that the girl is always happy being Lucia, and maybe then everyone has to shut up and confirm that The best thing these parents could do was allow their son to be who he felt he should be.
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