On the occasion of Father's day, which is already close, we are doing these days the Special Bloggers Dad, with interviews with some of the best-known parents in the network, who periodically tell us about their lives since they are parents.
Today we have Carlos, author of the blog A dad like Darth Vader, whose blog stands out for its good humor, its simplicity in telling us things and, at the same time, for the passion and affection with which it writes.
Carlos is half a screenwriter, an administrative medium, is 37 years old and is the father of two children named Martí and Mario, to whom he dedicates many of his sincerity entries. A few days ago, in fact, we could read him with his letter for Father's Day, in which he basically asked for patience.
What led you to start writing in a blog?
I needed two vital things in my chaotic life, on the one hand, to do what I like most in the world: Writing, and on the other, seeing that this of fatherhood was something precious but it was very hard and that I was surpassing myself, to be able to let off steam, to be able to show my concerns, share my dreams, fears with other parents, so I put it all together ... and the blog was born. And that I saved in the psychologist ... And as it has always been characterized in everything, I immediately needed someone to give me a cable and give me a push, so my friend and blogger Cris Moe of the blog 'Mareta Meva' set the guidelines, taught me how Wordpress was going ( fuck, look it's complicated), and gave me what I needed so much: Believe in me and have perseverance.
What does the blog give you?
It gives me everything. Satisfaction, happiness, let off steam, share, share, share. That I think is the spirit of the blog: share everything with others. My sadness, my joys, my varying moods like a damn roller coaster, everything I feel, what I live, I capture in the blog, I show it to people, and they, not only read me, they also explain their lives, they help me, they stop me on the street and tell me what they feel. It's a continuous sharing of fatherhood ... it's a wonderful thing.
Are you still feeling like Darth Vader? And if there are doubts, how do you think he felt?
Hahaha! Of course. I feel like Darth Vader on many occasions. And no, I am not proud of it, quite the opposite. However, with everyday life, I learn to be less, to empathize more with my children and to approach how I want to educate them. It is a goal, a continuous learning. You learn from them, you learn from other parents, you learn from life. And the beautiful thing is that over time, you realize that deep down, your children are the answer. They are the ones who know more about the whole world, you just have to accompany them, guide them, pamper them a lot, let them get dirty, they have tantrums, they climb on that tree so high even if that will cause you a heart attack and that Let them show themselves as they are, that they know this strange world that they inhabit, that they know each other, yes, let them know each other. "Being a father is something chaotic and unsettling, but beautiful and wonderful" On Darth Vader's question, I imagine he thought he was doing well. He wanted to conquer the galaxy, and what better way to do it next to his son and try to convince him to go to the dark side. However, he is only a poor victim of the evil emperor, and when he finally gets rid of such an evil one, he can reconcile with his son. In that sick relationship between the emperor and Darth Vader, and what I am going to explain to you is a very personal theory, it is very similar to a father's relationship with his surroundings. The father who is exposed day after day to words of his kind: "your son misbehaves, you have to punish him", "do not take him in his arms so much that he will get used to it", "do not let him sleep in your bed", "Let him cry because he is teasing you" ... and endless barbarities, he is very likely to believe it, heed all that, and maybe he ends up doing things he doesn't feel. Deep down that father is a victim of his surroundings, as was Darth Vader of the emperor. The day that father manages to do what he really feels, what his heart tells him, that day ... will be a great day for everyone.
Being a father is ...
Being a father is the best adventure of all. Better than going with Indiana Jones to the cursed temple and rolling it brown, better than going with Tintin to the moon or shark lake, better than living any adventure from those books by Timun Mas "Choose your adventure" in the that you could change your destiny, pulling back and forth ... It is somewhat chaotic, unsettling, but beautiful, wonderful. It is to be a child again, or rather, is to let that child that you have inside and that has never left (and you know it), go out and meet you again. A precious and continuous learning, a beautiful and continuous adventure.
We thank Charles that has opened the door of your blog for a little while A dad like Darth Vader and he has explained to us, with such sincerity and in a universe close to a galaxy far away, his vision of fatherhood.
