The most difficult time that parents can go through is, without a doubt, face the death of a son. Just imagining his heartbreaking pain and suffocating anguish makes my soul shatter. And that happened to me when I met Monica and the story of her little Chloe, which we talked about a few months ago in Babies and More.
Since then, I have continued to maintain contact with this great mother, sending my support and having her in my thoughts in the most difficult moments. Like the one who had to live on May 16, when her little Chloe would have turned two years old.
An especially emotional birthday
Chloe came into the world on May 16, 2016, but a few minutes after birth, the little girl died due to complications arising during childbirth. Since then, Monica and Alberto, their parents, live in deep pain from which little by little, and with much help, they are trying to get out.
An important part of that help is offered by her daughter Nerea, a beautiful eight-year-old girl who fills the house with joy and light with the immensity of her gaze, and who remember your little sister daily with the naturalness and spontaneity that characterizes children.
"Nerea loves to draw pictures with hearts and love cards where she tells her sister how much she loves her. On one of the last cards she wrote she could read: Chloe, my little star, I love you"- explains Monica.
And for Monica and her family, Chloe is still very present in their lives, is the engine that moves them and the force that pushes them to fight to find out what happened during that fateful morning of May 16, 2016, in which everyone expected life but they came face to face with the worst nightmares.
For her parents and her sister, little Chloe's absence hurts every day, but it intensified even more if the day should have turned two years old.
"It was a very hard day because our protagonist was missing, but we didn't want to stop blowing the candles for her, because we love her and remember her daily. My daughter Chloe is very important to me. I love her and she will always be present in my heart "- confesses Monica, excited.
So the family decided organize a discreet party in honor of Chloe. They decorated the house with flowers, pink and white balloons, and many hearts, and wrote cards where they expressed their feelings towards their baby star.
"It's been two years since Chloe's departure. Two years! And we've decided to celebrate his birthday in the privacy of our family.
"In our hearts so many emotions coexist with which we have to deal with, that we have no choice but to do it with patience and serenity"
"And although we have watery and swollen eyes, it is our princess's birthday and we want to celebrate it"
"And what would Chloe have liked on her birthday?
"We thought a simple celebration would be a good idea because we intuited that she would have needed little to be happy that day. That is why we believed that some candles, several balloons, and a super chocolate cake could not be missing."
"In our case it will not be necessary to fill the house with clowns, music or animation ... In this case we value the most important thing, which is the time we have spent together preparing the celebration thinking about it."
The final touch was provided by a delicious chocolate cake and strawberries that adorned with two candles that Nerea blew, on behalf of his sister.
"I spent the day telling my daughter how much I loved her, and what I would have given to celebrate her birthday with her. My girl is a star that illuminates us every day, and I have the firm conviction that one day we will meet again""It was a very emotional party full of memories that we celebrate in tears but surrounded by much love. Nerea lived it with special emotion, and her creative mind gave us beautiful ideas to remember our baby on her birthday "- Monica tells us.
It's hard not to get excited reading Monica's heartbreaking words, from which a deep love for her daughter follows. A love that won't get cold over the years and that you don't want to hide because, as you say, Chloe was, is and will continue to be a very important part of her family.
Remember the baby who left early
In the interview we conducted with Monica a few months ago, she confessed to us something that we have denounced several times, and it is the thunderous silence and empty words often faced by parents who have suffered a gestational or perinatal loss.
Many women admit to wanting or needing to talk about what they are living, but to encounter the indifference or inappropriate words of the interlocutor. Maybe fear, ignorance or discomfort of not knowing what to say It causes situations that lead many people to silence the sad moment they are going through.
"There are people who act as if nothing had happened and as if Chloe had never existed. They tell me that I am young and will have more children, but each child is unique and unrepeatable, and my daughter did exist and something has happened, and that is died "- explained Monica.Currently, Monica and Alberto are immersed in a judicial process for alleged medical negligence during the birth of their daughter Chloe. And although this situation still prevents them "reach a state of serene sadness"They don't want to stop remembering their girl with deep love.
And it is to blow the candles for her and have her in her thoughts It helps them move on with their grief: little by little, all three together, and always guided by their little star.
Acknowledgments | Mónica Carrasco, from Chloe's Footprints blog
