With the arrival of the children, a new role begins for us: being mothers. And with this new role in our lives, comes a series of monumental changes, from those changes we notice during pregnancy, to the physical changes that leave their mark on our body after childbirth. But without a doubt, we also experience a great transformation on a mental and emotional level.
You could say that we go through a metamorphosis, which leaves as a result the new woman we will now be. But during that process, we may find ourselves confused, experiencing a kind of loss of identity. We explain why this is normal.
The feeling of loss of identity when becoming a mother
As I mentioned at the beginning, when we have a baby we go through a total transformation, from head to toe. Not only our body went through major changes in just nine months, but also everything around us will now be different.
We are now being responsible for a small and fragile human being, which depends entirely on us and we must take care and protect, nurture and feed, both physically and emotionally.
It is expected that now with this new family member, our style and pace of life will look totally different from what they were before having children. You might even ask yourself: what was my life like before I was a mother?
Before you had children, you probably did what you wanted at the time you wanted it. Dating friends was routine, going to the movies or going out for a drink or coffee with your partner, they were some of the activities you did with total freedom.
And what about those long nights of sleep and rest, which now with a baby seem more like a distant and vague memory. Not only is your body depleted, but now it is another, because it can also happen that the clothes that you liked so much, you no longer have (at least, at the moment), and that can also make you feel lost.
The result of a great transformation
So: if your life, your routines, your activities, your body and even your brain have changed so quickly, Of course it is normal to feel that you have lost your identity! With all these changes in all aspects of your life, it is easy to feel yourself as a strange person, very different from the woman you used to be and it is not easy to identify with the woman you see in front of the mirror.
And with all this I don't want to say that this is a negative changeWell, although you lose some things, you gain others. And being a mother gives you wonderful moments every day and leaves you with great life lessons. You learn to see the world with new eyes and discover that there is immeasurable love in you. Being a mother makes you an extraordinary person.
I just want to explain that what you feel, that confusion, that disconnection with yourself is normal and something that could naturally happen after that great series of changes that you have experienced and that now have left you with a totally different life.
It is natural, especially in the case of new mothers, to feel that you have moved away from that woman you used to be. That's why I want you to breathe easy and tell yourself: "I am a normal mom"But above all, I want you to never feel guilty for feeling this way.
The changes brought to us by being mothers can be very strong, and sometimes also very hard. But over time and gradually you will adapt to that new role. And about that sense of loss of identity: it is simply the evolution of woman to mother, a new identity with which very soon you can feel like yourself again.
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