In line with the study we saw a few days ago about the unrealism with which women often face childbirth, I wanted to bring some reflections.
And note that I fully agree with my partner Lola when she states that The key to a good birth is information. That knowledge will help us receive that moment with the right attitude.
I have always thought that at the time of "preparing" to have a baby I would read information about pregnancy, the evolution month by month, childbirth and postpartum ... And that preparation classes They could help me to know what I was going to face, to complete my information, to solve my doubts and to create certain expectations.
And I think that was the case, and that all that information and preparation helped me. Thanks to the readings and my matron I got to know what was happening to me month by month, and what could I expect at the time of delivery. Although always leaving room for the unexpected, yes. If there was any last minute setback, it did not mean that the delivery as I had conceived it had "failed."
We had to receive the fact of giving birth naturally and with the mind, say, open and clear. It was possible to put epidural if I wanted to, but it could be that they could not supply it to me for any reason, or I simply might not want it. It was possible that it would last 20 hours or be resolved in a few ...
It was possible that the staff who attended to me would oppose me getting out of bed to dilate ... There was a possibility that the delivery had to be in another hospital other than the one that touched me, or even that I did not have time to Go to any hospital.
Many of those issues they wouldn't make me funny, but the time could come, and he had to face them. Not as someone who accepts things as they are imposed without considering them, in a sheep plan, but as a confidence in the staff that was going to help me bring my daughter into the world and in the hands of those I had decided to wear.
I remember how the matron explained the case of mothers who had collapsed at the time of delivery because they had based this whole process on epidural anesthesia that they had not been able to receive. Or mothers who collapsed after childbirth because it had ended in caesarean section. Or mothers who collapsed because when they arrived they were told that it was going to be long…
He primary purpose For me it was that my baby was fine. It's not that I considered myself secondary, what I'm trying to express is the breadth of view and the optimism with which I wanted to receive childbirth. If I decided epidural, well, if you couldn't or didn't want to, too. I would ask the staff to let me get up to dilate. I didn't want to get angry if they didn't allow me for some reason.
I didn't want to sulk or suffer more at such an important moment. Things could go as I had imagined them, or not. Each birth is different. In spite of everything, we always get an idea of how everything could go. Finally, the delivery was not as I had imagined, but I did not lose an iota of my happiness.
The question of information, breadth of view and optimism, and falling into the habit of almost every mother, I keep recommending these points to future moms. Creating closed expectations about what our birth is going to be, does not help it to go better.
