If we have already talked about slow childbirth, slow motherhood and slow childhood, it is fair to dedicate a post to the slow dream because the fashion of express dream for children it is expiring and every day more evidence of how dangerous it is.
The first thing to say is that babies learn to walk when they are maturely prepared (a baby will never walk at 2 months), to speak when he can (a baby will never speak a speech with 5 months) and the same goes for sleep.
Childhood sleep is the subject on which more lies circulate (many from the same professionals) and which is harder for parents. In fact, we could assess the human quality of a person according to how he reacts to this proof of parenting.
According to the book "Sleeping without tears" by Rosa Jové, expert in child and conscious sleep, the dream is an evolutionary process. Every healthy child, who has frequent awakenings or has trouble falling asleep, will one day sleep properly.
And this one day is not much less at 4 months, and correctly it is not much less 12 hours straight. That some baby does it spontaneously does not mean that others have to.
Babies cannot be taught to sleep because of the simple fact that They already know how to sleep before birth. Sleep is a vital necessity. But we can accompany them in the process, facilitate things (relaxation, softness, routine, gloom, etc.) and respect them. But abandoning and leaving a baby crying can neither teach sleep nor teach anything at all except helplessness, resignation and the terrible lesson of "neither my parents comfort me, my needs are not important."
The difficult circumstances of life uncover the best or worst of each person and the harsh reality is that the current pace of life is inhuman with the needs of the babies and the parents themselves, who in many cases both have to get up early and not They have no strength to comfort your child when he wakes up frequently.
But in childhood sleep there are no shortcuts. Drugs are currently being supplied to children for sleeping or practicing training methods (Ferber / Estivill, Supernanny). And both take their toll.
- Sleep medications alter sleep cycles and delicate brain function
- Letting cry and not attending (saying words from the door is not of course attending) cause emotional shock They produce very high cortisol levels and have short and long term sequelae. In this spooky video you can see the method in all its splendor.
I am very sorry but there is nothing magical for our children to sleep like lilies simply because their natural sleep process is not so. Not everyone has an “off” button for 9-12 hours.
The public takes advantage of this Achilles heel of the parents to offer us soaps with lavender, cocoa with lemon balm, relaxing infusions (full of sugar and insane by the way) and various nonsense. All are patches and not solutions.
Because the solution is patience and respect. Up to 3 children there are many children who will never sleep many hours in a row.
Yes, that resounding. The dream is one of the slowest in the development of children and the best test for parents to show them our unconditional love, our maturity and our ability to give and sacrifice if necessary. If someone has to suffer, shouldn't we be parents, supposedly balanced adults, and not babies?
Nature has given mothers tools: breastfeeding with natural tryptophan and with calming effect by suction and contact. And interestingly, the duration of breastfeeding in the human species should be several years (the same as children need to be less dependent).
In the absence of breastfeeding, the more baby contact with the parents, the more comfortable and beneficial for everyone. Colecho is the ancestral and worldwide option to solve this issue. And 80% of the world's parents practice it.
In any case, this post is not an apology of the colleague but a apology of godliness.
And so that we do not believe that our children manipulate us simply by not acting according to official patterns of wakefulness and sleep, we only have the rigorous and scientific information. The Punset documentary and the course "The Art of Being Parents" is an excellent start in knowing the true needs of our babies.
In short, slow sleep is only compatible with slow motherhood. There are bad times to be a baby and mom and dad really! But therein lies human greatness.
