We live in a time when talking about postpartum is increasingly common. From celebrities who share their experience with depression or postpartum psychosis, to recommendations to live it in an easier way. However, although mothers are getting better and better prepared for their arrival, there is still more awareness in the people around them.
This is precisely what a mother expresses in a publication that has gone viral, in which invites people to get more involved and accompany mothers during postpartum, because signs of depression are visible.
How many cases have we not heard of postpartum depression? For some people, It is surprising to know the large number of mothers who go through this disease, because it is automatically assumed that "everything is fine". But it's not always like this.
The problem lies mainly, is that we are accustomed to that idea that infinite fatigue is normal during postpartum. And yes, of course it is, with all the routine changes and those new sleepless nights, it is normal to think that puerperal women are constantly exhausted. But the fact that this exhaustion is something "expected" does not mean that we should see it as unimportant.
In Babies and more Dear new mom: motherhood is not like postpartumWe have to understand something: after the birth of a baby, everything changes in a woman's life. Not only does her body go through the greatest and most incredible transformation, but also her mind and spirit go through transcendental changes, transforming her into a new woman, still unknown to her.
And that's when we have to pay more attention: in the postpartum. It is when more than ever, recent mothers need our help, our support, and above all, from someone who accompanies them unconditionally and without judging them. From someone who is involved not only in their physical well-being, but also in the emotional one.
Why all the signs of a possible postpartum depression are there, but we need to be really attentive and look a little beyond the answer that a puerperious woman will probably give us: "I'm fine." And that's what the publication that a mother has shared is about, in which she asks us to stop saying we didn't know, because the signs were always there:
I get it. I finally understand. You see mothers committing suicide. And I could not understand it. How do you abandon your children that way? Postpartum depression, is what they call it. You don't feel like the world is better without you, you feel that you would be better without this world. And then everyone publishes: "Oh, I didn't know. She never said anything. She seemed fine" ... She told you. And it seemed unimportant to you, you didn't understand. Being left behind in life, she can't do anything. Everything is expected of her and she is drowning. She has lost herself by taking care of others. She told you: "I can't this day. I have too many things to do." Do not offer to take care of your children, because then the guilt is present. He won't let you take them because he already feels he isn't spending enough time with them. I see. I see you. I understand you. Do you want to know how someone is? Go and visit her, let her take a shower, help her in a way she doesn't feel she is falling behind. Do not feel that you are alone. As if it were human. Those are his signals. Stop saying you didn't know. Because she told them.
The publication has been shared more than 117,900 times and has received hundreds of comments from other mothers sharing their experience with postpartum depression, in which they agree that most people tend to minimize the signals that were clearly always there.
The main problem with postpartum depression is that many people still cannot conceive of this happening when mothers are supposed to be full of joy in receiving their baby. And they are, but they are also going through one of the most confusing and dark stages of motherhood.
A stage of changes and adaptation, in which it takes a lot of time, patience and reflection to reach acceptance. A stage that although each woman lives differently, is not usually a path of roses or a dream moment for most of them.
In Babies and more Five things you can do to help when you visit a recent mother That's when we need to enter fully and get involved. While it's a time of joy and welcoming a new baby, we must not forget the mother or set her aside. Ask her how she is, how she feels, what she needs, how you can help her.
Let him know that he is not alone and that he can ask for help. And if he doesn't ask you, do it anyway, without waiting for her to say it out loud. Help her in a loving and very respectful way. That he knows that it is okay to ask for and receive help, and that he is no less capable of not being able to do everything alone. None can do it all alone.
The signs of a possible postpartum depression are there. Let's stop being surprised and say that we didn't know it or we didn't imagine it, and give women during their postpartum the respect, care, company and attention they deserve.
