The times when girls grew up with the dream of having children and fulfilled it when they were adults seem to have been left behind.
A study conducted by the SM Foundation on “Marriages and young couples in Spain” concludes that 77% of women give more importance to having a job than being a mother or having a partner.
The study is based on 2,500 interviews conducted with couples under 40 years of age and women were asked to mark the level of importance that various items assumed in their lives.
The results say that 78% of women consider it "very important" to have economic independence, 77% believe it is very important to have a job (economic independence is usually always linked to a job, that's why the results are so even) , he 46% marked the fact of having children as very important, 44% did so with having a stable partner and only 17% thought it was very important to get married.
These data come to say that fairy tales have long been forgotten and that women now prefer to be self-sufficient and feel that they do not depend on anyone.
With respect to the fact that only 46% consider having children very important, the data confirming that more and more mothers have fewer children is confirmed, on the one hand, and on the other hand it is shown that the current standard of living (with the requirements economic entails), the value of the flats, which until a few months ago has generated almost lifetime mortgages of more than one thousand euros per month and other reasons, make it difficult for a couple to live on a single salary.
Observing this it seems logical that most women consider it very important to have work and that many think that if the two members of the couple do not work they will not be able to take care of their children. In other words, few consider it very important to have children because they believe that you can have work without being a mother, but you cannot have children if you do not have a job.
From the same survey another curious fact is extracted, probably linked to what has already been commented: only one in five women believes that having a job can resent or deteriorate their relationship with their partner and children.
In this sense, everything depends on the type of relationship from which it starts. In the case of the relationship with the children, which is what concerns us here, if the mother works, for example, during school hours, it seems clear that the relationship can never be resented, since they were not going to see each other ( unless they ate together), however if starting work means starting a separation that did not exist before, this deterioration of the relationship can occur because children often do not understand these separations and because the quality of time with children is important , but so is the quantity.
The strange thing is that the majority of mothers consider that this does not happen (myself, when I spend more time working, I observe that the relationship with my children requires more efforts on my part, as if they “put in my face” the lack of time with they).
