As every Wednesday we send you a question to which we invite you to answer in our section of Answers and we comment the most valued answers to the question of the week pass.
Education cuts have been announced, cuts that may lead to increased ratios, decreased teaching staff, increased teaching hours or difficulty making doubles. Spanish society is concerned and, even understanding the need for austerity, educational quality is considered to be low and that it is not the best measure of spending cuts. What do you think?
That is why our question for this week is this:
Are the cuts in education going to harm the quality of it?
From today you have a week to answer this question in the Answers section and next Wednesday We will comment on the most voted interventions or more interesting.
Last week's question
Last week we asked you:Have you felt judged by the way you raise your children?
The answer with the highest score in the votes was Agueda, who gave us an answer with which you can surely identify many of our readers:
One is always judged when we don't do the things that most parents do. But I love responding to family, friends and strangers because I continue to breastfeed my 2-year-old baby, the reason for not letting him cry, sleeping in my bed, etc ... I hope that having to give a thousand explanations serves to change the sensitivity of future parents and give them a different parenting option. And even if you do not accept my advice, do not worry, I will not judge you.
Another outstanding response has been that of Anamare, a teacher and mother who, in her comment, has given us great sensitivity.
As waxpa says, judging one's own and others' actions is something that I think we all do, either verbally or in thought. And the truth that issuing / receiving an external judgment does not always have to be negative, sometimes taking distance and seeing things from another perspective enriches us and gives us more criteria to act. The issue is how this exchange of opinions takes place, nobody likes to be treated as inferior, giving us orders about what we should or should not do, nor that they take advantage of a small mistake to lash out against all our choices. As a teacher I interact with many parents and although sometimes they ask me, I am not much to give advice, normally what I do is ask them questions so that they themselves suggest “solutions”, which from them will be more consistent with their way of Live and educate your children. I usually speak from my experience as a mother too and I do not care that they discover my “imperfections”, this in the end gives them more confidence (seeing an equal) than if you start to give a pedagogical speech as if you had the magic wand of education (which does not exist, luckily). Answering the question, I have felt judged, first of all for having a large family and for being a practicing Catholic (which seems to be the worst today, the worst), and for taking my children to school public (as if this contradicted the above somewhat); and for never giving pacifiers to my children, and for taking them all when I go to the movies or traveling; and for putting them in my bed some night (of babies always); and for not celebrating their birthdays with macrofiestas for classmates ... But I don't care much what others think; I judge myself for some aspects that I would like to change: - I would like to remove the TV and that my children would grow up without watching TV, but I have not taken the step. - I would have liked to educate my children at home until at least 4-5 years, but for economic reasons I have taken them very soon to the Infant School (in my same workplace) and I have seen them happy. - I would like to have more patience, and know how to redirect a conflict situation before reaching the limit and explode. I am aware that one of the reasons why it bothers us to feel judged by the education of our children is that we often live parenthood as an extension of our own lives. Once I went with all my pride as a mother to tell a very appreciated friend that my 4-year-old daughter already read and knew how to write a few words and he answered me with a speech about the fiosiological maturity of the hand and the tensions caused by the grip of the pencil and the "damage" that that could produce, ... I felt terrible, and I was very angry but not because of his criticism (which I recognize is well founded) but because it was not what I expected of him as a friend, because in that moment I expected a praise for my daughter (and for myself in that prolongation of my life). Then it made me think a lot, as a teacher I have seen many children write and paint since they were little without currently having any sequels, that is, I differ from their theory; but I also recognize that it is not good to "crush" a child to write when his motor maturation is not ready and it is not right to "show off" our children.
It has, of course, been a subject that has removed many of the readers of Babies and moreWell, it is true that, although we all try to do our best for our children, the options and opinions sometimes collide and it is difficult not to judge or feel judged.
We leave you this week's question in the section of Answers and we invite you to answer us on this link, so that your answers can be valued by the readers and collected next week.
