The fact that parents maintain a fluid relationship with the school benefits everyone, and putting the focus of attention on students, it is considered that It is a factor that helps improve study habits in children, and therefore predisposes to greater academic performance.
To fulfill this objective, tutoring on demand (from the teacher or the parents) helps us, more so than the group meetings convened by our children's tutors. Without undermining the communication through the agenda, telephone calls and visits to other professionals of the school (which may also indirectly be related to the evolution of our children): specialist teachers, non-teaching staff (speech therapist, psychopedagogue, etc.), and even the center director. In fact, the ability to maintain a relationship with the school to support our child and to achieve common goals, we all have, although not all parents start it. It is part of the two basic skills to develop to lead to school success (interest in studies and active involvement).
You will agree with me that It is not always easy to maintain good communication with teachers for different reasons (parent work schedules, refusal to adapt tutoring by the center, different perceptions about educational methods, lack of involvement in conflicts between students, etc.).
Fathers and mothers, teachers and professors, we are people, and interpersonal communication is not always as simple as it seems. But we have the opportunity to understand each other, learn from each other, and above all benefit our children
Reasons to hold regular meetings with the school
Parents are interested in knowing the academic evolution of our children, but We also want to know what relationship difficulties he has with his classmates, how the teacher perceives his feelings at school, and what potentialities have been discovered since he was in school..
We want to see the notes of the controls, but also discover how to help children improve, persist, organize, overcome difficulties, feel satisfied with their work. In my opinion, habits, overcoming, ability to work in a team / for help, and that of organization, they must be above the expectations that sometimes arise towards obtaining an 'Excellent'.
Of course when there are problems, no more reason is needed to arrange a tutoring, because we want to know the teacher's vision, and we want to acquire more tools to help solve it.
How should my child improve? What can I do as a father?The possible thing is given to us, for us the challenge is to go directly to the difficulties and preserve the achievements. Do you have a child who gets the best possible grades because he is intelligent, but he gets bored at school? Then motivation works, proposes the tutor to carry out projects or experimental work. Do you have another persistent worker who overcomes the difficulties little by little but still maintains poor pronunciation in a phoneme? Then congratulate him on his work and guide the efforts to work together with the school specialist.
Relations with the center should always be bidirectional: it is clear that we are required a certain level of involvement, as we can also demand respectful and adequate attention to their growth with our children
Take care of the language, and also the forms
To have a good relationship with our child's guardian, it is not necessary that we have affinity (beyond interest in the child) with him, but this will not prevent us from having cordial and productive meetings.
Parents and teachers can approach and respect each other, set joint goals, and eliminate possible prejudices that we have for each other. During a meeting or tutoring there are no culprits or the possibility of demanding the other, there are only people who want to find a solution to the difficulties, and who share tasks to achieve goals. Family and school can find meeting places only with good will and the ability to understand.
The basis of interpersonal communication is in listening to each other, respect and the ability to achieve objectives, develop demands and save forms. In order for the other party to accept our proposals, it is very important to take care of the presentation of the message. This does not mean that we should not say what we think, just that we will do it without hurting anyone ('What is well said is well heard', as a mother assistant recently pointed to one of my talks).
I don't want to end without mentioning that Any teacher can use everything we can bring about our children: strengths, learning needs, their way of being, and any information that helps them understand children.
Maintain healthy relationships with the center (tutors, counselor, management team), It is not only advisable but it becomes necessary. With this we will be up to date with the progress of our children, we will know the points where we should reinforce them, and we will show our interest to teachers and our own children.
