The importance of looking at your baby when you are feeding him

A few days ago we talked to you in Babies and more the moment a baby smiles with intention for the first time and why it is important to reciprocate.

Today we want to talk a little more about communication with the baby, and that is that the psychologist Alicia Martos published a few days ago an interesting article in which he mentioned why it is important to look at the baby when you are feeding him.

The importance of knowing dear

According to Martos, in the baby stage it is very important to establish a bond between mother and child that is built with the sum of small details that "build a healthy construction of self-concept, self-esteem and security."

It's like, at the beginning of everything, letting the baby know who has someone to take care of him, that mom is there when needed, taking advantage of the time to feed him to say little things, look at him, talk to him and establish a verbal and nonverbal communication that lets you know dear.

And as Alicia says:

Some disorders that occur in adulthood may have their roots in this type of defective linkages made during the first six months of life. Therefore, it is not only necessary to perform the care related to physical well-being (food, shelter, cleaning, cleaning or rest) but also involves benign or positive affective stimuli.

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The looks, the tone of voice, the caresses ...

Parents have been told for a long time that we should not abuse our role as parents who give love to their children.

In a confusion with the kind of paternity that consents everything to the child and even gives the child everything he wants when it involves acting unfairly, unethically or against parental wishes (when parents do what they ask the child but they feel they shouldn't do it), love has also been considered something to limit: "don't do everything he asks, don't become his servant, and don't give him all the love he asks you for."

The reality is that the rule is much simpler: "Do not do everything he asks if that is a problem for you or someone, or if you think it is unfair, do not become his servant, but his mentor and companion in life, and Give him all the love he asks for and feel"Oh, and common sense ... try to do what you feel is best, what is born of your heart, and you will hardly be wrong.

There is no problem in giving all the love you feel to another. No one is rude to feel loved, as no couple breaks because one of the two has no qualms about loving the other unconditionally.

That is why it is important to look at the baby, talk to him in a soft tone of voice, smile at him, caress him, hug him and look him in the eye.

In fact, according to Martos, the baby realizes how much his mother feels for him when he looks at her:

Feeding and looking at the mother's face allows them to create that unity relationship where the mother reflects what he means. The look that takes place as part of the maternal function is the first mirror where the child begins to differentiate and react to the other, because he realizes the response that generates his presence in the other; hence the importance of giving back the constant gestures, movements and sounds emitted by the child, as it is the moment that begins to be discovered as a person.

But ... what if the mother talks to someone or looks at the cell phone?

Alicia says that mothers should remember that "you cannot fall into the error of assuming (breastfeeding) only as a right of mothers, (but also as) the right of the child to be looked at, consented, taken care of, felt while being is feeding. "

I remember that Miriam looked at the children a lot when he breastfed them, talked to them, caressed them, but I also remember that he often ended up with his cell phone, a book or the TV ... but he did when the children were older and they were on many occasions watching (them) other things, the shrews, mom's pendant, her earrings, the people who passed by, the surroundings ...

But it also depends on what is the relationship between a baby and his mother. If we talk about a baby who sleeps like a blessed and most of the time he is caught in arms it is to be breastfed yes, to be looked at and spoken to, caress and smile for as long as he remains awake, for him and for the mother, who falls even more in love with her baby, if that is possible.

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But if you behave like most babies, who ask for arms and have them, breastfeeding or bibe is important, but it is part of a relationship that contemplates many more moments of arms, of interaction, of looks, caresses, words and smiles. Even parents spend time with them and do the same.

So, coinciding with Martos in which the looks and interactions are very important, I would remove some pressure in this regard when babies are already older ... than if a woman takes advantage of a shot to talk on the phone with someone or take a look to social networks between look and look, nothing happens either.

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